Dogen Zen-ji said, “To know yourself is to forget yourself.”
Identity and perception of the world is based on what happened to you, not what you consciously chose. That's why 'Be Yourself' can be terrible advice.
Instead of animating the story written for you, undo who you've been through Personal Undevelopment and rewrite who you become with Unself Help.
Unknown → Known
You deserve to be happy
Kill your ego
You have free will
Just do it
Discover yourself
Be yourself
Seek self-actualization
Achieve new years resolutions
Trauma is bad, avoid it
You control technology
Known → Unknown
Stop pursuing happiness
Embrace your ego (kill your identity)
You have free won't
Just undo it
Dis-cover yourself
Stop being yourself
Seek non-self actualization
Start tiny habits
Trauma is inevitable, understand it
Technology controls you
There is no 'finding' yourself,' which is why personal development and self-help can feel like a circular treadmill leading nowhere.
Instead of trying to discover yourself, Unself Help encourages your to dis-cover your self.
When we uncover who the ingredients that make up the self, we can better determine who we want to become.
Dogen Zen-ji said, “To know yourself is to forget yourself.”
If our patterns and identity are based on our childhood, trauma, and convenience, ‘be yourself’ isn’t great advice.
To become who we want to be, it's often about undoing who we've been to become who we want to be.
Do you feel like you can't get everything done? Do you have FOMO?
Do nothing more and fully give into FOMO.
It may sound counterintuitive but it's exactly what we need in a culture of more.
Instead of trying to seek Self Actualization, strive for Non-Self Actualization.
We live in a culture with far too much attention on the Self and it concretizes who we've been instead of what we can become.
When we're able to perceive the self as fluid and don't label ourselves, we can better create the life we want.