Dogen Zen-ji said, “To know yourself is to forget yourself.

Identity and perception of the world is based on what happened to you, not what you consciously chose. That's why 'Be Yourself' can be terrible advice.

Instead of animating the story written for you, undo who you've been through Personal Undevelopment and rewrite who you become with Unself Help.

Self-Help | Personal Development

Unknown → Known

You deserve to be happy

Kill your ego

You have free will

Just do it

Discover yourself

Be yourself

Seek self-actualization

Achieve new years resolutions

Trauma is bad, avoid it

You control technology

UNself Help| Personal Undevelopment

Known → Unknown

Stop pursuing happiness

Embrace your ego (kill your identity)

You have free won't

Just undo it

Dis-cover yourself

Stop being yourself

Seek non-self actualization

Start tiny habits

Trauma is inevitable, understand it

Technology controls you


Undo who you've been to become who you are

1 | Dis-Cover Yourself

There is no 'finding' yourself,' which is why personal development and self-help can feel like a circular treadmill leading nowhere.

Instead of trying to discover yourself, Unself Help encourages your to dis-cover your self.

When we uncover who the ingredients that make up the self, we can better determine who we want to become.

2 | Stop Being Yourself

Dogen Zen-ji said, “To know yourself is to forget yourself.” 

If our patterns and identity are based on our childhood, trauma, and convenience, ‘be yourself’ isn’t great advice.

To become who we want to be, it's often about undoing who we've been to become who we want to be.

3 | Do Less

Do you feel like you can't get everything done? Do you have FOMO?

Do nothing more and fully give into FOMO.

It may sound counterintuitive but it's exactly what we need in a culture of more.

4 | Non-Self Actualization

Instead of trying to seek Self Actualization, strive for Non-Self Actualization.

We live in a culture with far too much attention on the Self and it concretizes who we've been instead of what we can become.

When we're able to perceive the self as fluid and don't label ourselves, we can better create the life we want.